The Last Time ⌛
Helping to Break the Binge/Purge Cycle
Happy Friday!
Ian River here! Digital Marketing Assistant for ABU and diaper sogger. Here’s to another end-of-the-work-week and to big squishy diapers!
This BDF, I want to sit you tykes down and discuss a topic I often hear from folks and a situation I myself dealt with.
Perhaps you have thrown away your last diaper, swearing to never partake again. Or maybe you celebrate a week-long indulgence in the diaper lifestyle, and now you feel deflated and uninterested in padding up again.
Binging/Purge cycles are all too common with a lifestyle and kink as dominating as ours. Coming from an inner shame or disgust rooted in outer forces or upbringings.
This Friday, we’re gonna briefly discuss the cycle that many of us faced and sometimes still contend with.
What is a Binge? 😵💫
Binging is a period of overindulgence in an activity or item.
Running a spree of shopping after a paycheck hits. Having one too many drinks at a party. Or, as in this case, wearing diapers one after the other for days on end.
Triggers for a binge can be a number of reasons. Perhaps you have a long dry spell between being able to wear. A sudden increase in the ability to wear. Or experiencing distress and seeking a moment to escape
What is a Purge? 😓
After a binge expires, often a purge occurs.
This sudden desire to decompress and remove yourself from the activity or object you had binged on.
Throw away all your diapers and gears, perhaps swear off it for the entire future, til a month or so later, and you’re back again ordering diapers and restocking your onesies.
How do I escape this cycle? 🚀
Recognize that you are in a cycle.
This is possibly the most difficult task, as it takes a lot of self-reflection and skills that many of us have not been taught to do.
Journaling is a great method of self-reflection, not just for the subject we are covering, but for mental health overall.
Keeping a journal of your inner thoughts unfiltered allows you to go back and read your words and mindset, separate from the catalyst. With a clearer head, you can investigate those feelings and determine if you are binging or about to purge.
Breaks Are Healthy, Purges Are Destructive ❤️🩹
It’s OK to take a break.
Set down your phone and turn off social media for a few days.
Neatly store your diapers away.
Hang your onesies color-coded in the closet.
Store your stuffie friends safely in their hammock.
Knowing that they’ll all be there when you feel better.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or exhausted with trying to keep up with being the best waddle butt in town and sometimes you need to switch to adult mode for a bit. It only makes that time when you come back to it all the more validating and fun!
Being Little or kinky isn’t a job, it’s an expression of yourself.
Preventing Purges ☕
When you are feeling the need to get it all out, consider reaching out to a trusted friend to store your gear for some time rather than trashing it all.
When the feeling comes erupting from you, the need to get away, shame for yourself, that’s a great time to grab that journal and write down your self-conflict or even record yourself speaking out your feelings.
Then take a short walk, something that puts physical distance between you and the triggers.
When you come back, then read/listen to yourself and be kind to yourself.
For myself, part of ending my own binge/purge cycles was surrounding myself with padded friends.
Establishing healthy kinships with crinkily folks where we could discuss topics beyond diapers. Talk about movies, music, and play video games, with the occasional discussion about the newest diaper or teasing. It helped to normalize my own padded butt.
Closing Thoughts 🥰
Walk away from this article kiddos, and understand you are OK!
There is no harm in embracing your smol side or having underwear that crinkles more than others.
Binges and purges are a normal process many of us go through, and still struggle with!
Those big diaper folks you see on socials, or even your friends, go through these phases, too!
Practice self-reflection and don’t beat yourself up after a binge/purge.
And most importantly, accept that your love for diapers is OK.
I believe in you kiddo!
– Ian River
