Exploring Ageplay: Making ABDL Friends & Kinky Connections Out In The World
It’s the bab behind the Tweets (Xs now?), posts, and crinkly antics of ABU’s social media, Ian River! If you’re not familiar with me, I am ABU’s Social Media lead! Lover of saturated diapers and hater of pants! You can check out my last blog on Diapers and Skincare Here!
This Big Diaper Friday I want to discuss a subject I think most crinkle butts consider as they follow along into exploring their kinky lives: finding and maintaining friends that share our “little” interests.
Friendship In Kink
Where Are My People?!
How does one find kinky friends? Social media provides a great way to find groups of folks that share niche interests and make the first connection with other kinksters!
X (formerly known as Twitter) holds the greatest and most visible plethora of Kinksters and diaper-folk, however, Instagram, Fetlife, Recon, Reddit, Mastodon, and many others are also adequate spots to find possible connections! And don’t forget about smaller less open platforms like Telegram and Discord, with energy and a little help from your connections on open social platforms you can often find invites to smaller more private chat servers or forum spaces. These are great for getting more personal interactions with the people you meet online and can often lead to friendships and closer relationships.
Lets start off with some social media tips (from the Social Media Lead himself): Help yourself stand out and be more approachable by posting your own content! Take a picture of you and your pets, your diaper stash, or you enjoying your hobby! People feel more comfortable speaking with a profile that shows a personality behind it, than blank profiles or reposts! You will find that being genuine and yourself brings in more people to interact with that share your interests. You don’t need to constantly make exciting content, feel free to just talk about how you spilt beans making coffee in the morning; share parts of your life that are relatable.
Now that you have a spot in the circles where kinksters can be found, how to begin making those friends?
First, establish what you are looking for:
- A friendship with similar kinks?
- A playful friendship?
- A partner or chosen family member?
You may find more joy and fulfillment by focusing on the first and letting others come second naturally. Though only seeking play is perfectly valid on its own. Friendships can turn into relationships, and some will just be friendships. Gaining either is a wonderful thing, just let things develop organically over time.
Time To Put In The Work!
I find direct message platforms like Snapchat and Telegram are great for keeping those connections running. A snap from me to friends makes sure they know I am still thinking about them and keeps them clued into important moments of my life. Telegram can facilitate long discussions I have with my friends on topics we find interesting (or just sending memes to each other).
Platforms like Telegram and Discord are helpful once you have found your people and established some social circles online. Social media can often feel a bit impersonal; you found your new friends but initiating conversation can be intimidating. Using those open social platforms to get invitations to smaller chat servers or group chats in telegram and discord is a great use of your new connections. Finding groups of common interests within these more forum based platforms often leads to closer connections; you are having active discussions with people instead of just liking or sharing their content.
What If I Want More In-Person Connections?
You’ve done everything online, you have met and are actively interacting with folks who share your interests, but it all feels so…digital. The unfortunate reality of having a niche interest like ABDL is that others who share your interest are often spread few and far between. Finding a local friend who you can regularly hang out with and share in little time is a precious friend indeed, not everyone can find one.
What you can find is the opportunity to look for those precious in-person friends. Now that you are connected to your interest circles online you should be able to search for local ABDL events, conventions that you can attend and other events. Some may just be a group of local ABDL friends who found each-other and are open to you joining in.
Ian River – (He/Him) – Social Media Lead, Super-Soaker, Pants Hater.
